Sunday, May 21, 2017

I Grew Up with Music all Around Me

Recently I was watching GPB TV and a program on the Carter Family singers, A.P. Carter, his wife Sara, and Mother May Belle. Their haunting melodies that likely came over from Ireland and England still appeal to my Irish roots. Music of the past played a big part in my life.

My mother, Lois Robison, sang in church as a child. She was an alto in the choir. She played piano by ear and felt she was not good because she didn’t read music. However, I believe that those who have a natural ear for music and learn to play instruments from hearing a tune, are as good musicians as those who only play from notes on paper.

Left to right: Rex Council, Hal Council, Max Council, Ray Council,
The Council Brothers Quartet

In 1948 – 1949, my four brothers, Ray, Max, Hal and Rex, made a name for themselves in southwest Georgia when they sang in all the little country churches for miles around. Ray sang bass, Max, tenor, and Hal sang the lead or baritone. Rex, very young at the time, sang alto or first tenor. Like most family singing groups their voices blended well into a harmony that was their own. They listened to the old time music of country singers like the Carters and Jimmy Davis, and more popular country singers of the day on the radio.

The brothers had been singing together most of their lives. They sang while they worked in the fields, while milking the cows and while riding together in the family car or truck. Max had an affinity for learning lyrics. His memory was impressive. It still is today at the age of 87. He can sing every verse of almost any song he and his brothers sang throughout the years.
He can recite long poems he learned when he was in high school. 

Ray did the same. They both loved the poems of Edgar Allan Poe because of the rhythm and rhyme. While Ray gained higher education later in life and was well-read, he continued to enjoy singing the old gospel songs with his brothers. He listened to classical music and drove up to Atlanta to attend the Met when it brought one of his favorites to that city. But he was a true lover of all kinds of music.

I remember watching him, when he was a kid, learn to play his Roy Acuff guitar he ordered from the Sears and Roebuck catalogue. As we all sat on the front porch on a summer evening, he sat on the steps cradling that guitar. He never became proficient on the instrument, but he learned to read music and taught his brothers what he learned.

In 1949 Ray and his brothers managed to earn money to attend the Stamps-Baxter music school in Dallas TexasThey rode the bus there and Ray rented one room in a boarding house for the four of them. With only 200 dollars for the trip, they walked wherever they had to go, and ate meals at the boarding house. They spent their evenings in their room singing, much to the dismay of other boarders who had to listen to them every night.

The brothers were handsome young men. Women liked them and even in Texas they had their share of dates. Max still remembers the girls they met. He was nineteen at the time.

While at the music school, the quartet was asked to sing one night on KRLD, a national radio station. This station had a strong signal and could be heard all over the country. Ray chose a song they knew well and it had a small solo for Rex. He was only fourteen years old. When he thought of all the people listening he developed stage fright. At the point in the song when he was to sing solo, there was no sound. Ray realized Rex was not going to sing that part, so when it came around again, he jumped in to take his little brother's place. 

When they returned home to Albany, Georgia, they continued to sing in churches and in concert at the Albany Auditorium and other venues in southwest Georgia. WGPC radio, the first radio station in Albany Georgia, asked them to hold a program on Sunday morning which they did for a year or two.
Council Brothers Quartet in late fifties singing at family reunion

Mother enjoyed her sons' singing and was usually present to hear all the praise bestowed upon them. My sister, Gay, and I were usually present as well. Although we were very young at the time, I understood the honor of being kin to these young men.

I don’t think there was ever any thought of making singing a career for them. In our family, art of any kind was just a hobby, not a sensible accepted way of making a living. My brothers sang on stage with the top gospel groups of their time, the Statesmen Quartet, and others of that era. Some of the Statesmen can be seen on the Gaither gospel music show on Television.

The brothers eventually moved to popular music of the day. I remember them singing, That Lucky Old Sun, My Happiness, and others I heard on the radio. They sang some of the great Sons of the Pioneers songs. Cool Water was a favorite of the audience. They chose songs that allowed for their family blend of voices.  

I don't remember when I didn’t hear them sing, and I always enjoyed their rehearsing at our house where we could hear them. Different men and women came out and accompanied them on Mother's upright piano. I was five years younger than the youngest brother, Rex, so when he was 19, I was fourteen, a teenager, the same age as he was when he went to Dallas to the singing school.

Over time, the brothers married, became fathers, worked hard to make a living in various businesses. They seldom sang together anymore. Two of the wives made a fuss, I think, about their husbands leaving them home while they met with their siblings to sing. But Max would not give up singing any time he had an audience. His wife, Salita, had a beautiful alto voice so husband and wife began singing at churches and nursing homes with a friend, Jerry, playing the guitar. They were in demand for several years. Although Salita suffers from dementia now, she can sing and remembers the words to the songs she and Max sang long ago.

Council Brothers and Barry Beall on guitar at the Council Reunion
in Crawfordville, Florida
After Ray retired he asked some of the family if we would be interested in gathering to sing with Barry singing and playing guitar for us. Barry was a voice major in college and sang beautifully. From the time we married and he entered our family in 1964, my brothers embraced him as a member of the Council Brothers Quartet. He often sang solos, usually folk songs, when they made appearances.

Our 1980s family singing group consisted of Ray, his wife Gail, Max and Salita, Gay and Stu, and Barry and me. We had such fun learning parts for all the old songs we had heard all our lives. After singing for an hour or more we ate dinner together. We laughed and told stories and bonded tighter than we had ever been. We missed Hal and Yvonne and Rex and Nancy, his second wife, but they evidently had no interest in singing with us. I never knew exactly why, but we respected that they had their own thing and we had ours.

Somewhere I have a video of our group singing. Max’s son, C.C. gave a humorous name to our group  - The Broken Spoke Gang. It was a takeoff on a group called the Chuck Wagon Gang. We were not ready for an audience, that is for sure.

I miss those evenings of family love and music, where we raised our voices in the old southern gospel songs. I miss my brother Ray, who spent hours copying music for us and helping us learn our parts. I miss his passion for music and family. Like Mother, Ray believed family was everything and he made many sacrifices for our family. He used our love of music to bring us together. 

When I hear the songs my brothers sang, I smile and feel a comfort inside. When I hear those old hymns we sang, tears come to my eyes as I remember when Ray and Barry were still with us. Good memories, all. 

Saturday, May 13, 2017

Mother's Day reflections

Lois Robison Council
This past week two of my Robison cousins, my mother’s family, came for a visit. We had a great time talking about our families and especially my mother, Lois Robison Council. Rob Robison said she gave the best hugs in the world and even though he didn’t get to see her often, she always gave him a big hug and seemed to really care about him. She did care for him and kept up with him all her life.

Rob is the grandson of her oldest brother, Avon Robison. Mother was next to the youngest so there were many years between them, but they loved each other.
Mother was raised in a home filled with love and she loved most people she knew. She was a forgiving soul, too. Unlike many others I have known, she never criticized her family.  Her brothers and sisters were good people and some of their spouses were not so good to them she said, but she was not rude to anyone so she accepted them as well.

My Mother, Lois Robison Council, who was always beautiful inside and out
We knew most of our cousins as we grew up and I met Rob, who is a  second cousin, when he was a kid a few years younger than I, but not when he was an adult, that I remember. But now we are like old friends who enjoy seeing each other and talking about our Robison family history.  He lives in Arkansas now but grew up in a military family living all over. 

My g-grandfather, was John Monroe Robison, and he had many children. His son, William Henry Robison was my grandfather. Rob’s father was named Henry Robison. Henry was killed in a plane crash during WWII. He was only 23 years old. He left behind his wife pregnant with Rob.

It broke my mother’s heart when Henry died. He was close to my sister June’s age. They both graduated from Albany High School, as did I and all my siblings. We often visited Henry’s mother and father after he died. They always cried when they talked about their only son. Their house was like a shrine to Henry.

Tomorrow is Mother’s day and I am grateful, as I am every day, that I had the most understanding and caring mother anyone ever had. I knew I was loved and she was always on my side. Mother had unconditional love for the children she brought into the world. We don’t often find that anywhere else. She had so much love in her heart that it spilled over to others around her. 
I wish every child could have a mother like mine.

Saturday, April 29, 2017

May - Multiple Chemical Sensitivity Month - How MCS affects you.

Multiple chemical sensitivity (MCS) affects over 48 million men, women, and children. May presents a great opportunity to work towards increased public awareness of MCS and support for the millions of people affected.
“MCS is a devastating illness that makes it difficult to live in our modern world. It’s hard to imagine that everyday household items like cleaning products and perfume can make you sick, but for people with MCS, virtually everything in their homes can trigger reactions,” says Debra Lynn Dadd, consumer advocate. 
Dadd was one of the first people to be diagnosed with  MCS and has written two books on the subject. For her and others, sheets made from synthetic materials usually contain petrochemicals and can be a trigger for illness. Many MCS patients have insomnia. Dadd now uses 100 percent cotton sheets and she sleeps like a baby.
Lately I have noticed that my bedroom has become one of the triggers for asthma and respiratory illness for me. I recently purchased a new mattress and a mattress cover that was claimed to block dust mites which are one of my allergies, but maybe it is off gassing petrochemicals and causing my breathing problems. 
"...While people with MCS were the first to show negative health effects from toxic chemical exposure, now there is a clear correlation between everyday toxic chemical exposure and virtually every illness.”
Recently, after a night when I did not sleep, I was at the local grocery store wearing my special mask with the charcoal lining when a young man who carried my groceries to the car asked why I wore the mask. I told him the grocery store was a bad place for me because of the air pollution from cleaning products, air fresheners, scented candles and so many other fumes that stagnate in the air including the personal care products of all the employees and the customers. I told him they make me very ill.  
"I have a problem like that," the boy said. Some of the perfume that girls at school wear really get to me. I think it's some Avon stuff, but it really bothers me." 
I didn't tell him that he was not unusual. One third of all Americans are adversely affected by scented products and the chemicals usually made from petroleum. 
A teacher I saw at a recent event at the high school told me that one summer before she got her job teaching, she worked for a cleaning service and they cleaned my house. "I'll never forget you," she said to me as I tried to remember her. "You taught me to clean without those yucky cleaners. I don't use them anymore."
I never allow any cleaning products in my  house except vegetable or plant based cleaners. Vinegar and water does the best job of cleaning my kitchen and bathrooms, along with baking soda. When I dust I don't use a furniture polish or anything sprayed into the air. My indoor air is clean. In my living room are two air purifiers that run all the time. They are small but large enough to take care of the room size. Two more help clean the air in the rest of the house. Even with a little dog living here, I am told my house smells clean. Instead of all the stinking air fresheners people use all the time, they could purchase a few small machines that clean the air, not cover the smells. 
Larger air purifiers like my niece has in her home, work wonders on cleaning and making breathing indoors comfortable. When I spent a few days at her house, I loved being in the bedroom where they had the large air purifier going all the time. 
I usually make my laundry detergent from unscented soap, baking soda and Borax. But I can use Seventh Generation free and clear and a  couple of other plant based products. I never use dryer sheets. They are almost as bad for us as air fresheners. The smell of dryer sheets linger in clothes forever and also hang in the dryer. It is almost impossible to clear the odor from the dryer. Often service people come into my home to take care of the AC or another appliance. The smell of the dryer sheets used on their clothes immediately begin to make me feel uncomfortable. 
With 1/3 of the  people in the United States having adverse conditions from scented products, I have hope that one day manufacturers will be held accountable for the use of these chemicals they tell us have no harmful effects. 

But we must continue to  educate the public and make them realize that they can protect themselves and their families by refusing to use these products. Today  I went online to find products that are unscented or non-fragranced. We have access to many more now than we did ten years ago. 
One day we might catch up with other countries that have already banned some of the harmful products found right on our grocery store and drug store shelves.

Sunday, April 23, 2017

Mental Health Month - We all have mental health issues.

We all have mental health issues at some time in our lives. But too few of us seek counseling when we need it. In my own family, there is a history of depression and suicide on my father’s side.

My daddy succumbed to depression when he was in his forties. He bought a farm,  the biggest gamble of all, and had to make payments on a loan. He had such pressure on him to make that loan payment that when his crops failed and he lost some of his livestock to lightning, he became extremely despondent.

I remember him sitting, one early morning, in front of the gas heater, his head in his hands. Mother sat beside him, her arm around his shoulders. They talked softly and I did not understand all of what was said, but I heard Mother comforting him. We will make it through. Don’t worry now. You will find a way. She tried to  cheer him up.

I believe my father was actually crying, but I was a child and I’m not sure. I do know that he was unhappy and irritable most of the time. It was years later a medical doctor prescribed an antidepressant for him. However, no one talked about it. Mental health problems have always been hidden because our culture stigmatized those who needed help for those issues.

Thank goodness, Prince William and Prince Harry are opening up about the dangers of holding in your painful feelings by finally talking about the terrible grief of losing their beautiful, beloved mother, Princess Diana. I know that children have long lasting effects from grief that they can’t talk about. Often adults tell children, “Be strong for your mother now. She needs you.” What a burden to put on a child. 

I am afraid I did that with my nieces when their father died. I hope I did not, but I probably did, because I was ignorant of what they were going through. They seemed, at the time, to be handling things so well. But I am sure they pushed that pain as far away as they could.

Some people say that kids are resilient and they spring back better than adults. That is not always  true. Sometimes kids seem to  be fine when they, like Prince Harry, are suffering deep inside.

Having  lost so many of my loved ones, I know that grief hits one in different ways. And we grieve over many kinds of loss. Women grieve that they cannot bear children, but they don’t feel they can say that out loud. I know women who have lost infants in miscarriage or at birth, and they don’t have a time or place to  grieve. Unthinking friends often say, “Well, you can have another one.”
Another one will not replace that child that died. That pain will always be there.

I first went for counseling when my mother collapsed with a ruptured aneurysm on her carotid artery and almost died. She had to be cared for the next ten years until her death. She lost her short term memory and could no longer cook or drive a car. I had no idea how to care for anyone, certainly not the one I had always turned to for my own needs. The stress was overwhelming at times. I had a husband, a job, and a house and yard to take care of, but I was also on call 24/7 for my mother.

Lois Robison Council, my mother, who lost her short term memory at the age of 70
I told no one, but I sought a counselor where I could cry and not feel ashamed or guilty, where I could pour out my sadness and my low feelings of self-esteem, my fear that I was not up to the task. That was when I realized that many others I knew could benefit from counseling as well. When I expressed to my counselor that I would be considered weak if I told my family I was in counseling, he said, "Actually, you are the strong one in your family.” He said it takes courage and strength to face the truth and to talk about the pain in our lives. He was right.

When a troubled niece came to live with me as a teenager, I had to seek help. I had no training in dealing with a girl who was grieving the death of her father and, in a way, the loss of her mother who had to go back to work and had to move the family away from the school, the friends, and all familiar things she knew.

I did not know what to do. It was such a relief to talk with a mental health counselor who worked with children. The best advice she gave me was so simple to follow. “Just love her. Let her know you love her.” That was easy.

Ten years later, when my mother died, I was devastated. No one in the family seemed to grieve the way I did. I just could not get back to  normal. I went back to my counselor who knew me so well. He  knew me better than anyone because I was free to tell him what I was feeling. I learned during those weeks and months that I was suffering because I not only lost my mother, I lost my purpose in life. I had to make a new life for myself that did not include my mother.

My purpose for a decade had been to keep her alive and to dedicate myself to her care. I was the one who knew her prescriptions and when she should take them. I was there at the doctor's office to hear his words because Mother would not remember to tell me. Once she was gone, I felt I had no purpose.

Someone said to me, “But you had your husband.”

Yes, I had my husband and I still cooked meals, kept house and spent time with him. I loved him dearly. But if I didn’t cook a meal or if I didn’t keep house, he would still be fine. He would not be upset one minute. Thankfully, he was that kind of man. Caring for him and my home was not a life or death matter.

The death of my mother changed my life completely. I became so depressed I lost interest in everything. That is the reason I have empathy for anyone who has lost a parent, a child or a spouse. Each loss is an individual issue that affects each survivor in a way no one else understands. My sister said she thought my grief for Mother was harder for me than the grief she and the others in the family felt.

Richard, my counselor, showed such kindness, understanding and caring he helped me pull myself out of that dark time. I had taken painting lessons and I lost myself for hours sitting in front of a canvas creating a work of art. My husband and friends found my work pleasing and praised me as an artist. Using your hands helps with grief. Creating something new brings stillness to your mind, and  takes away the pain for a time. Art can heal and I found that writing and painting is very healing for me. 

When I see a mother lose a child to cancer or some other horrendous disease, I say a silent prayer that she will seek counseling. Some deeply religious people find solace in talking to their priest or minister, but some don’t get what they really need. They don’t need to hear that God will not give us more than we can bear. They don’t need to hear that time will heal our pain. They don’t need to be made to feel they did not live a good enough life or that it was for the best. Some platitudes are spoken that only hurt, not heal.

Sadly, the stigma of seeking mental health care keeps many from reaching out. Grief not only hurts us in our heart and brain, but it makes us physically ill as well. When my husband died, it seems I had more sick days than well days. I needed more sleep, yet when I awoke in the morning, I felt I had not  slept at all. I could not focus on tasks or even read without going back to read the same page again. My mind jumped from one thing to another, mostly about what I need to do or should be doing, or how am I going to do that or how can I do this. This did not go  away in a few months or even a few years. I had  to work on this every day and I sought help.

I am grateful to another counselor in my life. She is my sounding board. One time I might think I need to sell my house. The next time I might say I love my house and don’t want to sell it. She never tells me what I should do, but helps me think through my dilemma. 

“Psychotherapy doesn’t help people become unstuck because of what the therapist knows, but what the person who is stuck knows.” *

She reminds me that when I am not feeling well physically, I turn negative. But when I am not sick or in pain, she helps me see how I can reach my goals. She helps me understand I don't have to give up and call it a life. She asks the questions I need to hear.

Right after Barry died, I poured out my hurt and pain to her. I didn’t worry about what I said, or if I sobbed. She handed me a tissue box which she keeps in her office, just as I do in my studio. I hand them out to my students when someone writes and reads about his/her life and brings tears to  the eyes of the listeners. We don't feel embarrassed.

Counseling has helped me overcome anger and fear. I was angry at members of my family even though I loved them dearly. Once I talked about these people and discussed events in the past, I came to understand my anger. I also wrote about all of these things so writing was also helpful, especially writing about my father and understanding his fears of failure.

After my husband died my emotions were like a roller and that was detrimental to relationships with my loved ones. I had to let my anger out without hurting them. My therapist let me grieve anyway I wanted. She told me I had a right to my feelings even if it was anger I felt. Even if I felt abandoned I had the right to that feeling and I had the right to cry, to mourn and to hit something or kick something as long as it was not someone.

I didn’t have to pretend to be stalwart, strong when I didn’t feel strong. I had the right to sit home and watch family videos and cry over all the good memories we had made together. I did not have to  be Jackie Kennedy, and have others say how strong I was or how well I was dealing with my loss. In our culture we often pretend to be fine when we are with people, but fall apart when we are behind closed doors. 

My therapist encouraged me to do things I once enjoyed or take up something I had never done. She inspired me to give myself permission to travel and do things I had not done when Barry was with me. By doing those things, I developed more self-assurance. I made notes in my journal when I did something I had never done before. I patted myself on the back when I accomplished a new task.

Mental health makes a huge difference in the lives of us all. I once told my therapist, “I always feel better when I leave here.”   I wish I could say that when I go to my medical doctors.

Think about what it feels like to be carrying a heavy piece of furniture and to finally put it down on the floor. That is often the way we feel when we talk honestly to our therapist. We take that load off our backs. We bring it into the sunlight and see it differently.

Keeping painful thoughts and feelings hidden deep inside makes us ill, physically and mentally, so if you have lost a loved one or if you have gone through divorce, or if you have found you cannot have children or if you have been diagnosed with a disease, find a good therapist. Find someone you are comfortable with and don’t expect to be fine after one or two sessions. Stick with your counseling and I am sure you will find it is very helpful.

When my older sister, June, was in her last months of life, she wanted to talk to a therapist who counseled her about dying. When June accepted that she was not going to get well, she talked on the phone with her counselor. I don't know what was said, but after she hung up the phone, June said to  me, "I love her. I mean I really love her."

*  quote from a  TED talk on psychotherapy

Wednesday, April 12, 2017

Poetry abounds in WNC, thanks to Nancy Simpson

I came to live in western NC in 1995 because my husband and I had always wanted to live in the mountains and near a body of water. Clay County was perfect for us. We found a house about a half mile from Lake Chatuge on the side of a mountain. Our view included the blue waters of the lake and the Georgia mountains on the far side. In fact we could look at Brasstown Bald the highest point in Georgia while we ate our breakfast each morning.

I did not expect my life to take such a turn when we moved here, but thanks to Nancy Simpson, a special education teacher at the local school, who was program coordinator of the North Carolina Writers' Network West, I found what I had always wanted; a writing organization, friends who were writers, and a kind soul who taught writing to people like me.

Nancy taught a night class at the local community college and it was always full. I took her class over and over. She has a masters degree from Warren Wilson College. I took a poetry class she taught at the John C. Campbell Folk School, trembling at the thought of having to read my work out loud. But, she was gentle while helping us learn to write better poetry.

I had been writing since I was old enough to read and hold a pencil, but I had no confidence in myself. Thanks to Nancy I was soon submitting my poetry for publication. That was over two decades ago. Nancy was never too busy to help me polish a poem. She named my chapbook, Now Might as Well be Then, and I am delighted she chose that line from one of my poems as the title.

Nancy is having some health issues, and she can't read at Coffee with the Poets and Writers for our April meeting. April is Poetry Month and she usually is one of our featured poets. We look forward to her being back with us before long.

Another Clay County poet, Brenda Kay Ledford, was a student of Nancy Simpson in 1995 and she has published five books since then. She will read her poetry that speaks of her mountain heritage April 19th at Moss Memorial Library in Hayesville, NC.

You can hear Brenda read in her unique voice in this interview on You Tube.

Our meeting begins at 10:30 a.m. on the third Wednesday of each month. We invite the public to attend and to bring original writing whether poetry or prose to share around our table.

NC Writers' Network-West sponsors this event. It is a program of the statewide NC Writer's Network. 
The nonprofit North Carolina Writers’ Network is the state’s oldest and largest literary arts services organization devoted to writers at all stages of development.

Tuesday, April 11, 2017

Poetry Month springs forth in April

April is Poetry Month

I posted a poem I really like by one of my favorite poets, Jane Kenyon. This poem is read by Garrison Keillor. 

I like Jane Kenyon's poems because the evoke memories of growing up on the farm in southwest Georgia. She is not writing about the south, but the land of Frost, the other poet who is a big favorite of mine.

Tell me your favorite and poem and author.

Saturday, April 1, 2017

Writing classes, Writing Conferences, and Spring

Life is good in spite of all the BAD news we hear constantly on TV and the radio as well as on social media.

We are beginning the beautiful month of April. Spring is here. My azaleas are blooming and some of the blossoms on the trees survived the last freeze and snow. I have loved spring my whole life and I seem to love it more now. When things begin to pop up green and strong, when birds sing in my yard, the bluebirds come to scout out their house, I want to shop for flowers and shrubs. Geraniums thrive on my deck and I enjoy them all summer long.

I am an indoor gardener now, filling my deck with colorful flowers I can see from my chair in my living room. I also choose flowers that attract humming birds. With my feeders and my flowers they hover all day outside my windows.

Spring is a time for new beginnings and making plans for the future. Today I talked with someone at EAGLE one of the first places I taught writing. This is a church organization over in north Georgia. I have two good friends who attend classes and, one of them, Linda teaches dulcimer there. I began teaching writing to those folks back in 2006.

I agreed to teach a one day workshop this fall between September 21 and November 9. I won't be paid for these classes, but I will do this for my friends and for the good people who run this program.

I also accepted an invitation to teach this summer at ICL, the Institute for Continuing Learning, another program for adults, at Young Harris College. Those classes will be two hour sessions once a week for four weeks. I hope my former students will come and will tell their friends. 

In the fall, I am on the schedule at TCCC, our local community college to teach two hour sessions each Monday for four weeks. You can tell I enjoy teaching. I have met the finest and dearest people in the classes I've taught. I have heard the most touching, heart-felt stories about the lives of my students. The joy of it all for me is that the families of my students will have the interesting and well-written life stories to pass on to generations of the future. I know they will appreciate their ancestors telling about what life was like in the twentieth century, before cell phones, before computers and before the world became so very small.

I can hear some of my loved ones saying, "You take on too much. You don't have to do this."
But I enjoy every minute in class with my adult students. I feel euphoric when I hear former students telling new students some of the things they learned in my classes.

For now, I look forward to attending a writing conference in Blue Ridge Georgia April 8. I have not missed one of these since my friend, Carol Crawford, began the event almost twenty years ago. Gosh, how could it have been that long?

On May 6, I look forward to A Day for Writers, our conference in Sylva, NC at the beautiful Jackson County Public Library. The historic old courthouse of Jackson County, NC is now being used as part of the library. Most of our workshops and sessions will be held in the part that was once a courthouse.

Jackson County Public Library in Sylva, NC

This will be a busy spring for me, but I think it will also be interesting and fun. What will you be doing as spring comes to your area?

Sunday, March 26, 2017

Protecting the Parks and Protecting our Happiness

On this Sunday afternoon here in the Appalachian Mountains of North Carolina it is quiet with sun peeping in and out; just enough to make me think it might stay for a while. The temperature is cool, great for a walk, but I don’t do those much anymore. With back and hip problems, I could be courting pain that lasts for hours.

I watched the Sunday morning TV news shows and I feel I am listening to people who live in a faraway galaxy, not here in my country where the woods are still and silent around my house; where the blue mountains in the distance are home to bears, squirrels, coyotes, and deer, none of whom threaten my way of life. In fact, I am quite sure I will live out my days on this earth just as I am now. I will probably never see a Syrian refugee, a terrorist who comes to blow up our town, an outpouring of angry people marching on the square of Hayesville. I don’t live in fear for myself.

But I am concerned about the future of our world, our country and especially our beautiful national parks and our state parks. The last vestiges of wild and unspoiled land in the United States were set aside by past leaders who recognized the future needs of our people to have a place that was not concrete and asphalt, to have a quiet peaceful place to get away from our hurried and stressful lives.
For many years now, here in North Carolina, I have had the luxury of visiting the Smoky Mountains National Park. Millions of Americans and people from all over the world come to soak up the vastness, the spiritual feeling one absorbs here.

Far too many take our federal lands for granted with no thought of the cost of maintaining these special places. I remember my trip to Yellowstone some years ago. I will never forget the scenes I saw, the hot springs, the bison, the mating elk and the moose. What a vision it was to look out over the wide plains with the amber grasses tall enough to reach the bellies of the buffalo herds that stretched for miles it seemed.

Elk - We saw them everywhere in Yellowstone

Barry and I, while in Las Vegas on business, were able to take an extra week to visit Zion National Park and the Grand Canyon. I wish all the people who spend their lives in dingy little apartments in dirty cities could travel to these glorious sites. When I was there I was so proud I was bustin’ my buttons thinking that these thousands of acres will be protected from the abuse of man and his greed.
Only recently have I worried that our culture might change so much that we forsake these national monuments and development might creep in and soon it will all be gone. I won’t be here to see it, but I have nieces and nephews who have children and they will have families who I hope will visit the parks and find them as fascinating as I do.

We must find a middle ground between those who will destroy our land for money and those who challenge everything for love of nature. We must find a way to make a living without polluting our water, our rivers and our oceans. No matter what you make as a salary, it is not worth spoiling our water resources.

I have lived a few weeks without water in my house. What a horror. I have a well for water for my home and since we drilled a new one, I have to use a filter on the line coming into the house, and also another on the water faucet in my kitchen. Imagine having a situation like Flint Michigan where all water is polluted and dangerous to drink.

When the protections set for our water and environment were put in place by past U.S. Presidents, I was relieved and had hope that we would be safe for the future. Now I am not feeling so safe. When regulations are removed, then our protections are gone.

We are a capitalist country where money has more value than almost anything else. When I was younger, I wanted more money and felt I would be happier if I had a better house, nicer clothes, and could travel. People who make 75,000 dollars a year are just as happy as those who make 300,000 dollars a year according to some studies. Our country is low in the happy countries list.

No matter how rich we become, we need more than money to make us happy. Our “stuff” will eventually be given away or thrown away. What really makes us happy? Freedom from fear, love from our family, and lasting friends who will always be there.
These are the non-material things we need.

To help support Yellowstone National Park, check out this link.

Sunday, March 19, 2017

Diana Smith Poems for Kids

I met Diana Smith  many years ago when I joined and became part of the NC Writer's Network West (Netwest). I liked her poems and stories that were so full of humor. She is in process of writing a book about her grandfather, a professional golfer, a man who influenced her young life. 

I am happy that Diana has created a website with her stories and poems for kids. If you are an adult who loves dogs, you will laugh at the cute and whimsical stories about the many, many dogs she and her husband Joel have rescued over the years. 
She posted photos of some of her rescues and tells their stories in poems.

Diana's stories and poems for children have been published in numerous magazines for kids. 
Click on this link:

Let me know what you think and pass this website on to your grandchildren or to teachers who will find the writing here to be quite useful in class. 

Friday, March 17, 2017

Dana Wildsmith's new novel


Dana Wildsmith returns to City Lights Bookstore on Saturday, March 25th at 3 p.m. to present her novel, Jumping. Her novel portrays with great skill and finesse the collision of the two worlds of a Georgia school teacher and a small charming Mexican boy. 

I look forward to reading this book that sounds so interesting. 

Click on the link below to learn more.

Poet and novelist, Dana Wildsmith

Saturday, March 11, 2017

Writing Again

Thursday, March 9.
Tonight I read three pages from a memoir I began some years ago. I read them at our critique group, and I am so glad I took them for feedback. I had read only a  few lines before I realized how lacking my story was and how much more I can do to make it good.

I feel motivated to write again after my experience tonight. I have not written anything but blog posts in a  long, long time. Somewhere in the past year, I let everything come ahead of my creative nature. I am ready to come back, to follow my passion again.

The  process of publishing is a long one. Nothing good comes easily. This week I sent a manuscript to an editor. It is a compilation of short prose pieces, non-fiction and one short story. Included in this manuscript is a  collection of stories by my friend Estelle Rice. We decided a few years ago to publish a book about our beloved pets and other animals in our  lives. I think it will be a good read.

In the coming weeks, I will go down to my studio on certain days just to write. Most writers try to write every day, and I usually do some kind  of writing almost every day. But I have not done any serious writing lately. That is what I miss. 

One of my past students told me he is writing several pages on his novel every day. He described the joy he feels when he becomes lost in the story, in his writing and hates to put it aside to go on with the rest of his life. I have felt those moments. I want to feel them again.

Monday, February 27, 2017

Male or Female doctors? Is one gender better than the other?

I have written here before that I  prefer a woman physician to a male doctor. I feel that women  usually take more time and will let me talk and ask questions. Now, I find I am on the right track. Women physicians have a better record of keeping their patients alive. Not only that, their patients aren't readmitted to the  hospital as often. This article on
includes research on this subject:

The researchers estimated that if male physicians could achieve the same outcomes as their female colleagues, there would be 32,000 fewer deaths each year among Medicare patients alone — a number comparable to the annual number of motor vehicle accident deaths nationally. The study was published online December 19, 2016 in JAMA Internal Medicine.

The study included one million Medicare recipients 65 and over. They found that patients treated by a woman physician had a  four percent lower risk of dying prematurely. They had a five percent lower risk of being readmitted to a hospital within 30 days. 

Sadly, female physicians are often not paid as well as men and are often passed over for promotions. Only 1/3 of doctors are female, but women make up half of all US medical school graduates. I wonder what that says about the medical profession and medical schools. 

I would guess that women doctors pay more attention to guidelines and are more particular about details. I assume this because most of the  men I have known leave the details to their wives or secretaries. Could it  be that male doctors, like male CEOs, delegate to their lessor ranking people the important follow up on patients and don't  listen as well as women? 

Recently I met a male doctor who had read an MRI of my lower back. He was in the room with me about five minutes. He never sat down. He told me my MRI looked pretty good. But he thought he could alleviate  my pain with  an epidural, the same kind of injection given to pregnant women when they are in labor. He left the room after telling me I would be called to set up an appointment.  

I left there and drove home with questions piling up in my mind. Later I checked my messages on Patient Portal and found my diagnosis which included words like stenosis and steroid. Neither of those words were used by the doctor when he talked with me. 

Did he think I was ignorant of such medical terms? Did he think I would refuse the injection if he told me more details? Just the opposite is true. I have postponed having such an injection into my spine. Research has shown that this injection is not recognized by the FDA as safe, but it has become the latest trend among spine specialists who make mucho money on these procedures. They are said to be about 50 percent successful and are often repeated over and over with minimum results. The risks of becoming paralyzed or even dying are worth consideration and should be told to the patient. 

Why did this man not tell me there are risks? Why did he not tell me anything except "this is the injection given to pregnant women?" I hardly believe the ingredients in this cocktail are the same as given to a  pregnant woman in labor. 

Once again, I am not that happy with a male physician. One day, hopefully, women will be a bigger part of the medical world and I think the care we receive will be far better than what we have today. 
This is my opinion based on my personal experiences. 
What do you think? Do you prefer male or female, or does it  make any difference to you?