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Showing posts with label neighbors. Show all posts
Showing posts with label neighbors. Show all posts

Wednesday, June 10, 2020

Our Neighbors Were Not All White

Recently my 91 year old brother told me more about our family, about the neighborhood my family moved into when they bought a 125 acre farm in 1942. He is an encyclopedia of history of, not only our family, but the families of all who lived in our community.

The 125 acre farm my father bought with the help of a government loan, had been part of a 500 acre plantation. On the west side of our farm another strip of land belonged to Mr. Womble who also had been accepted for a government loan. Behind us was a long rectangle of land that belonged to Lester Branch, a black man. Mr. Debary’s farm bordered ours. Across Fleming Road Mr. Barbre, with a large family, worked his farm.  Adjoining his land was the McLemore farm. West of the McLemores was a farm that belonged to Mr. Toomey. Mr. Toomey was a black man.

My brother, Max, said in the evenings if you were outside you could hear a trumpet playing. It was Mr. Toomer. He was an accomplished musician who could read music. He was also one of the best hands anyone could have when it was time to harvest peanuts because he was magic at repairing machinery. Daddy admired him and his ability as a worker, not for his knowledge and talent as a musician.

Years later, Mr. Toomer would sell his farm to my Uncle Jimmy and Aunt Judy. I never met Mr. Toomer. I did not know Lester Branch either. He was a good farmer and would have kept his farm but his son, Raymond, while plowing with a spring tooth harrow, was badly injured. He died and Mr. Branch lost his will to fight for his farm. He sold out and moved away. My father and Mr. Branch had a good relationship as neighbors, but the white supremacy was accepted and practiced even with good people like my Daddy. 

On our farm lived Geneva and Johnny and their son, Bay. Bay and I were close in age. Geneva came down to our house once a week to do the washing. At that time, electricity had not reached the rural areas of south Georgia. Geneva worked behind the smoke house where a long bench held two galvanized wash tubs. One was for scrubbing the sheets, towels, and clothes of our large family. The other tub was for rinsing all that laundry. But, before the clothes were scrubbed, they were soaked in a big black wash pot sitting over a hot fire. Geneva used a long stick which, I remember, looked like an ax handle, and she batted the clothes around in the pot for a while before dipping them out and plunging them into the galvanized tub to scrub. This job took Geneva all day long. It was a back breaking chore and her pay was a tenant house in which to live. Her husband Johnny helped on the farm.

Bay was about my age, and I was four or five years old. My baby sister was too small to play with me, so I was happy to see Bay when he came with his mother. In those days you played with your family members or close neighbors. We had no planned play, no play dates, no special attention for the children. I ran outside to see Bay and Geneva when they came. Bay and I played under the big oak tree that sheltered our house for over fifty years. That is, we played until one day when Daddy told Mother he didn’t want me playing with Bay anymore.

I know now that Geneva knew my father’s wishes, although I didn’t know. I was sad and confused when I was told I could no longer play under the big oak tree with Bay.

This poem is about my first experience with racism and not understanding it.

The Big Black Pot
By Glenda Beall

A big black pot sits three legged, over red-hot coals.
Monday means Geneva comes, brings Bay, her boy,
in overalls, no shirt, no shoes, bare shoulders, dusty feet.

He chases me, I chase him. We tussle, wrestle,
and we hug,
color-blind five-year-olds,
becoming best of friends.

Geneva, scrubbing Daddy’s shirts, looks up, and yells to Bay.
“Come heah and stir this pot of clothes, and leave that child alone.”
Her face shriveled like dried apples and her eyes two burning sparks,
she takes no sass, and we both know it.

Quick as starlings taking flight, Bay’s grin departs.
Left bereft and all alone, I storm inside to Mother.
“Neva’s being mean,” I say. “She’s mad as fire at Bay.
He didn’t hurt me. I didn’t cry. Neva’s mad and I don’t know why.”





Thursday, April 16, 2020

What will you write about this time in your life?

As we write our life stories, what will you say about this crisis, this pandemic and how it affected your life, your family and your friends?

Today my neighbors across the street, Alice and Marsha called to tell me they had baked trout. "Would you like us to bring a trout to you, Glenda? Oh, and it has bones it in, but you have eaten fish with bones before, haven't you?"

Of course I have. We used to have fish fries on the farm in south Georgia. We caught the brim and bass in Major's Pond, a beautiful deep lime sink that stayed full. I don't remember the year my father began stocking the ponds. He stocked this pool of cool quiet water surrounded by trees with limbs hanging over the bank. Few people fished there. The fish grew and grew.

Major's Pond was my little heaven on earth. No human beings around, and only horses and cattle grazing on the tall grass a short distance from the pond. At first, Barry and I fished there on weekends and late in the afternoon after he came home from work. We trailerd our john boat over and settled in for several hours of fishing. Barry fished the shallow water for bass and I fished the deep water for brim. I loved my little rod and reel and, even after all the fishing gear was sold or given away years later, I could not bear to see that little fishing pole go.

The two of us often pulled the boat in after dark and drove home in the pickup with the bright moon shining our way across the fields. We usually had a nice catch that we froze until the day we and our friends could gather for a party. We cleaned and prepared the fish for frying. Our good friends, Mike and Sue, put on a fish fry that should have been written about in Southern Living magazine. 


Mike and his dear wife, Sue, who has passed away and is sadly missed.
Excellent hush puppies, grits and fish fried to perfection.
I don't think I have ever had any as good as the ones we ate sitting around the family pool on the farm. Having our good friends, several couples including Gay and Stu, my sister and her husband, made memorable moments that will stay with me always.
Those were some of the best times in my life.

Back to the present:
The large trout Marsha brought over was very good. I could easily fillet it and avoid bones. Eaten with a sweet potato, it made a great meal. 

Almost every day my neighbors bring over part of a meal they have just cooked. I have enjoyed celery soup, spaghetti bake, and other vegan treats. 

During all the heartache and sickness I see and hear about every day, I try not to feel guilty for enjoying my own life so much. And I wonder why I don't live this way all the time. No pressure, no responsibility for others, no appointments  -- just free time to do as I want. Heck, I am retired, live alone with my little dog, so why don't I live this way all the time?


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