Can you, my readers, tell me why this is the most widely read post I've written?
I assume it is because we all think about this - how we want to be remembered.
Today while nursing a cold, I watched several things on Netflix. What I enjoyed most were the videos of the TED Speaker series. These short pieces are inspiring and instructional.
There is an excellent video on body language. Not just body language, but how we pose when we feel powerful and how we pose when we feel less powerful. A wide open stance, open arms, hands on hips, show power and that image affects those we speak with and talk to in our daily lives.
I used to be one of those powerless people who sat small, wanted to disappear when I had to stand before a group of people. I crossed my arms across my chest, closing myself away from those I encountered.
I didn't know that my body language spoke louder than my words. But now I do know and I want you to know also. Is it surprising that men stand in more powerful poses than most women?
What I learned today is that even if we don't feel we have power, we can fake it and still get the effect we want. We can play a role of a powerful person, and if we do it often enough, we will become a powerful person. We can become what we pretend to be. And the body language we use changes our mindset as well.
You can find the TED talks on YouTube, but I like watching on Netflix because it is easy to repeat what I want to see again and again. Another video I enjoyed is Jane Fonda's talk on the third act of life. At times I felt she was speaking for me.