Words from a Reader

The “Writing Life Stories” e-mails I receive are such treasures. As soon as I see there is one in my inbox, I read it immediately. I look forward to them and never know how they will touch me. They can be interesting, informative, humorous, and/or touching.

Monday, October 6, 2008

Passing on our Wisdom


Since I am an "over fifty" person, I find the online journal Persimmon Tree filled with stories, essays and poems I relate to and I recommend that "under fifty" women and men read this ezine. In our youth-centered culture, much could be learned if the wisdom of mature individuals was respected and shared with those who could benefit from our struggles.

Page from old album: William Henry Robison, daughter Mildred, and Lula Jones Robison.

I've been fortunate in my life to have the opportunity to make a difference in the lives of children, as a teacher and as a friend. In recent years I've come to know younger women who counsel with me on issues important to them. We learn from each other, and I imagine that to be the way of generations past, when grandmothers lived with their children's families.
I never knew my grandmothers. They died long before I was born.What I know about them, I heard about from others. My sister June told me how she liked to sit in the hammock of Mama's dress as it hung between her knees. Mama was my mother's mother, Lula Robison. June loved Mama. I envy her having known the woman whose name I carry. Mother named me Glenda Lou in memory of her mother. As a child I hated the name. My first grade teacher called me by both names: "Glenda Lou, please read."

I came home from school upset and complaining. "Mother, I hate Lou. I don't want her to call me that." No one at home ever used my second name.

It was many years later that I accepted the honor that accompanied the name. My brother Hal still calls me "Glenda Lou" at times. And my husband often shortens it to "Lou." It conjures up a picture of Mama, the woman Mother spoke of with nothing but love in every word. Just as I speak of Mother who learned her parenting skills from Mama and practiced them on all seven of us.

My grandmother was William's second marriage. He first married her sister Ada who died in childbirth when pregnant with their first child.

I wonder how Lula felt about William before he married her sister. Did she come to fall in love with him after he was widowed as she consoled him in his grief? His name was William Henry Robison. Her name was Malula Jones. Both lived in Decatur County Georgia before their marriage where William's father, John Monroe Robison was a well respected man in the community. John served in the Confederacy as a blacksmith.

What stories they could have told me. What stories I could have heard from my mother if I'd only asked more questions, listened to her history.

I plan to do more discovery of my Robison family in the coming months.
But I'll never know my grandmothers.

Saturday, October 4, 2008

Traveling Through the Foggy Part of Life

Here in the mountains we often find ourselves driving over a mountain pass and suddenly we see a fog bank so thick it looks like a gray wall. In seconds we are into the fog and all we can see is a small area around the car and a short space ahead. We can't see a car in front of us or coming toward us until it enters the narrow space in front or beside our car.

A lovely drive turns into something scary, dangerous, and we aren't sure what lies ahead of us. Is there a truck stopped in our lane ahead, has there already been an accident and we can't see it until we hit it, will an oncoming car swerve over on our side of the road before we can see it coming and smash us over the side of the mountain?

That is the way we have felt for some months now, like we have entered a fog bank and we see only what is near us, but not what lies ahead of us. Will we wreck by making a wrong choice in treatment? Will we make it through until we run out of the clouds and see an open road with no impediments to our progress?

As I come across Franklin Mountain, one of the most beautiful drives I've ever seen, I am reminded of the lovely journey of my life with Barry. There are sharp curves, steep inclines and places where accidents have happened to others who were not as careful as we have been.

The sudden appearance of thick fog as we descend prickles my scalp and I find myself grabbing hold of anything for security, peering into the mass of mist hoping to get just a glimpse of what lies ahead. I know I can't control the car, the fog, what lies ahead and I'm not prepared if the worst happens.

I close my eyes and pray for God's protection, his guiding hand to lead us through this blindness. I pray the sun will still be shining when we pass through the terrifying part of the trip, and we will still be whole.

Thursday, October 2, 2008

John C. Campbell Folk School festival

Just a quick note tonight about loved ones. I will miss my brothers and their wives and my sister and brother-in-law this weekend. It will be the first time in many years we've not spent that time with them.

This is the weekend of the John C. Campbell Folk School in Murphy, NC.
In the past my family arrived on Friday evening and we spent all day on Saturday and Sunday sitting in the crowds listening to blue grass music, eclectic music from Butternut Creek and Friends and eating hot dogs.
It was great fun when my brother Ray was able to come. He brought his video camera and filmed the singing groups. He had multiple myeloma for the last three years of his life and nothing made me happier than to see him enjoying himself.

I always miss him at the Festival - and this year I will miss them all.