Writing Life Stories
With Glenda Council Beall
Words from a Reader
Thursday, November 21, 2024
Where do we go now?
Thursday, November 14, 2024
Childhood Happiness and Dreams
What is Happiness?
"Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud." –Maya Angelou.
When
someone asks, “Are you happy?” I want to answer, “Right this minute? This week?
Yesterday?"
Because I don’t believe anyone is happy all the time. Even when I was a child, I was not happy all the time.
First, I had older brothers who loved to tease me. They often made my life miserable, and I had a father who seldom seemed happy. He was always worried and serious about the farm, the future of the farm, and the business he and his sons had built together. I believe he had an anger management issue. He was quick to take off his belt and whip one of his sons. In those days corporal discipline was accepted at home and in schools. Being compassionate and also concerned for myself, I often ran to my room and cried.
Gay,
my little sister, and I played together every day, and I enjoyed that. I
suppose I was happy then, but I never asked myself, “Are you happy?”
Looking
back, I remember having such fun playing with the bottles, my sister June’s
cosmetic bottles on her dresser. We had to hurry and put them all back in place
before she arrived home in the afternoon.
June Council my older sister
I
was a happy little tyke when I rode Charlie, the big white horse, led home from the field by my father. After a long hot day of plowing the hard-packed
dirt of South Georgia, both man and horse were wet with sweat and tired. But I
felt like I was the king of the world sitting high on the horse, higher than I
had ever been, and looking down on my father and all the world around me.
My love for horses never ended. As a teen, I borrowed a horse.
The
ride to the barn was short. There I was lifted off the horse, and Charlie was
put into the large stall in the center of the barn. I don’t remember anyone
ever brushing him or wiping him down. He was fed in a trough hanging on the
wall of the stable and he could go outside to a water trough, a large syrup
kettle which had been used by some farmer who raised cane and made cane syrup
at harvest time each year. I never knew where it came from.
Glenda and Gay ready for school
I
became terribly unhappy when I went to first grade at Mulberry Elementary
School in east Albany. It was fine the first week. I
enjoyed swinging in the large swing set on campus at recess. I learned to read
quickly. I was placed in the reading group with the faster learners. I read the entire
reading book right away and then class was boring. I hated to have to sit while
others read haltingly about Dick and Jane and Spot, the dog. Run, Spot, run. Run, run Spot.
Looking
back, I think that was my problem. At six years old, I was just bored
with school. Reading was all we studied in first grade, and I found myself
sitting and staring out the window most of the time. As I stared out the
window, my mind wandered back to the farm, to my little sister, and to Mother. I
became so unhappy I began to cry. When Mrs. Pate noticed me crying, she asked,
“Glenda Lou, what’s wrong? Why are you crying?”
I told her I didn’t know but I wanted to go home. And that was the beginning of many years of being unhappy in school.
At home, once I learned to write in third grade, I found my happiness in writing stories in my composition book. Once I learned to read books that had once been read to me, I filled my time each summer devouring as many books as I was allowed to get off the bookmobile that came to our house on the farm. I lost myself in books about horses.
My creative mind took me to places I had never been and had me doing things I had never done. I was happy then. I made myself a seat in the Chinaberry tree in our backyard and I would sit up there with birds around me and write stories about horses.
I imagined a life with a horse of my own. That was my greatest desire, my own horse. I felt I would be completely happy if I only had my own horse. It would be many years before that desire was met.
Tuesday, November 12, 2024
Writing Classes and Enthusiastic Students on Zoom
One of my writing classes at the John C. Campbell Folk School in 2016 |
My students, four women and one man, have learned so much about writing personal essays or creative nonfiction, that I am blown away with the stories they write. Almost every one is publishable and I hope it will be shared with others because the writers have a message that will relate to many readers.
Some write about painful experiences, and people who have hurt them. I encourage my students to make the reader feel their pain using words they choose.
Another’s pain is not funny and is hurtful. In our culture today, comedians make fun of and disparage others to get laughs. Cruel humor is popular and not smart, in my opinion. Humiliating and shaming others is mean-spirited and not entertaining either. When people feel comfortable in a group, they will write about these things, and it is often cathartic. My students try to make each piece entertaining as well as enlightening.
We have stories about family pets. In these classes, the students write about themselves, and other people in their lives. They often express feelings they might have never shown before.
I gave them a prompt requiring them to make lists. They list people; family, friends, teachers, people who hurt them, and people who were good to them. They list places where they lived, and where they visited. From the lists, they find they recall memories often buried in time, but spark their creative minds to write a story.
One of the stories was so touching it almost made me cry.
A woman came to this country and after nineteen years gained her citizenship. She had hoped for dual citizenship but at the time,
that was not available. She was elated and excited to become a citizen of the
United States and happy that she could vote in the next presidential election.
This was back in the nineties.
She registered to vote immediately after becoming a citizen. This wife and mother is a perfect citizen in her community. She volunteers at schools and other places where her community needs her.
The writer of this story comes from European ancestors like
many who came and settled in this country.
She stood in line and waited for her ballot to vote in
the presidential election along with many others. But when she reached the
table to pick up her ballot, she was told she could not vote.
She felt the prejudice. She was embarrassed. She stood her ground and would not leave. “I am registered to vote,” she told the woman behind the table laden with paper forms.
There is more to the story and how
rude the election workers were to her, but she insisted she be allowed to call and
get verification of her registration. She had to use the phone at the voting
area and one person refused to help her, but another gave her the number to
call.
This writer said she has empathy for black people who have often gone through this kind of humiliation and rejection. She was the subject of outright prejudice.
Although she is Caucasian and fair-skinned, she had to fight to get her
opportunity to vote. She assumed the prejudice was due to her accent, although she
speaks perfect English. I wonder how many people had this kind of treatment in
the recent election.
I urge my students to enlighten the reader as well as
entertain and inform. She said she never goes in to vote that the memory of
that day doesn’t come back and hurt her. We all connected with this
lovely person who shed tears as she read the ending of her story.
I don’t know why I am so fortunate to have these
interesting and intelligent students in my classes, but I look forward to each time
we gather and enjoy seeing the bond grow between the students as they learn
more and more about each other.
Next Tuesday night will be the last of the three classes
in this session. I told the group that I would not teach again for a while, but they
were insistent that I do not wait too long as they want more classes. That makes
me smile.
Sunday, September 29, 2024
The Old Life Ends
Our first Christmas in our mountain house with Kodi |
Sunday, August 25, 2024
Vacation in Southern Utah
Barren is beautiful in Bryce National Park |
Some of my favorite vacations took place in the southwestern United States. Each year, in the fall, Barry and I traveled to Las Vegas for a truck show on behalf of Hercules Bumpers, our Council family business. The company manufactured heavy duty bumpers for pickup trucks. Barry and I flew out early from south Georgia because he was in charge of setting up the booth. For several days, he and Hal, my brother, worked at the convention promoting the newest bumpers and finding new customers among the truck dealerships represented there. We were a national company at that time and our strong, tough bumpers were in demand all over the country.
Neither Barry nor I were into gambling, but we enjoyed
the stage shows with popular performers like Mr. Las Vegas, Wayne Newton.
Our favorite part of the trip was after the convention
center closed and all the Hercules bumpers were repacked and shipped home, we
had a week to ourselves.
We rented a car and drove north into southern Utah. I had
not realized how beautiful the barren landscape would be. The hoodoos, like spires from another planet in Bryce Canyon, stood magnificently tall, the color of burnished copper in the setting
sun.
We drove to Zion National Park and Barry took hundreds of photographs. I had never seen landscapes like those at Zion. You can’t drive through much of the park, and at that time we didn’t know of any way to get down into the gorge. I understand now you can take a shuttle down between the high canyon walls that rise a thousand feet and see the narrow river that created this site.
My favorite memory of those trips was a ride back to Las Vegas in the falling snow. We drove through large forests of Aspen trees with their white trunks. We listened to a recording of haunting Indian flute melodies while driving through the total silence of the snowfall. Click on the link below and imagine driving for an hour through softly falling snow covering the Aspen trees. The deep forests of white trunks bordered the mountain road. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OyTy0WHOYqw&list=PLKeaaUnDcEk7Mn8f6ofiUyplqhiWwx587&index=2
I still get chills remembering the feeling I had that day. We both knew we had seen and been a part of something very special and I will never forget it. That video is packed in a box and I will find it and show it one day, I hope.
Southern Utah has an interesting history. The Mormons are a major part of it. Books about those who left Salt Lake City and moved south tell those stories. Many of them had come west from the southern part of the mainland so the region came to be called Dixie.
I love the western part of our country and southern Utah
holds great memories for me.
Saturday, July 27, 2024
Women have come so far but still struggle.
Have you seen the interview by Melinda French Gates with Billie Jean King?
Wow, what a
lot I learned about women in tennis and all sports. Do you remember in the
seventies when women could not get a credit card without a man signing for her?
She could not use her husband’s card unless he made her a signer. I remember my
sister who was newly married telling me how she was embarrassed when she tried
to use her husband’s credit card and was turned down.
I have really
enjoyed Melinda Gates’ program of interviews with women. It is the best program
I have seen to learn about the history of tennis and how Billie Jean changed
the minds of people who watched her match with Bobbie Riggs and won in straight
sets, 6–4, 6–3, 6–3. She earned the winner-take-all prize of $100,000.
People came
to her and said that this match changed their ideas about women in sports. Men said
it made them think about their daughters, their nieces, their sisters and the
possibilities for them. She was a fantastic tennis player, but at the time, women
did not get the attention or equal pay as men.
When Billie Jean
was outed by someone and didn’t deny it, she lost all the money she had gained because
those who had supported her athleticism dropped her. She was dropped because she
told the truth and didn’t deny that she was gay. And her funds were taken from her.
She said that
dads make the biggest difference when girls want to go into sports, and she hopes
these men who can influence and support girls who love tennis or any sport make
sure these girls have opportunities to follow their interests and learn all they
can.
I remember my
father said his oldest child, my sister, June, was the best baseball player in
the family. She had four brothers. But, she was not allowed to play on the
local team that my father managed. I don’t know if she wanted to play, but I
know she was not allowed. And at that time, she would not have expected to be
included.
King continues as a leader in the struggle for societal change. In her own words, she is
fighting for equality and freedom and equal rights and opportunities for
everyone. Not just girls, but everyone.
Young people
today often take for granted that females have always had opportunities to
become professional sports figures but people like Billie Jean King, now 80
years old, are still working diligently for equality of gender, and ethnicity, and
she is teaching the business of tennis. She said the athletes need to know about who runs the tournaments, where their money comes from, and why it is important to know this organization they are a part of now. Like many people who become famous, if they
don’t understand the business they are involved with and hire others to handle their
finances, they could possibly lose everything.
I urge everyone,
especially women, to watch Melinda
Gates’ interviews with these women who are making a difference in the world.
When we know our history, we know more about ourselves, and in today’s world
when women’s rights are being threatened, young and old can make better
decisions if they know about the past.